I just found out my son needed a pulpotomy. I’m seriously mad. This sounds serious. I’m sure it means my ex-wife’s been neglecting him and I wasn’t even notified he needed surgery. Is there a way I can sue for custody because of this? What do I need to tell the attorney?

Mark L. – Chicago

Mark,

It sounds like you’re worried about your son. It’s easy to take our fear out on other people. I know it would be easy to believe this is your ex-wife’s fault, but it’s very possible it’s not. There are people who don’t take care of their teeth and hardly need any work and there are people who take impeccable care of their teeth and have all sorts of problems. Dental hygiene is only part of the equation. Genetics has a lot to do with it too.

You should be aware that a pulpotomy isn’t a serious procedure. It’s a kid version of a root canal treatment. It’s very safe and was likely not at all scary for your son. With a good pediatric dentist, your son likely didn’t look at it as any different than any other fun visit to the dentist.

Before you complicate yours and your son’s life (as well as your ex’s) make sure you have all the facts. Talk to your son’s pediatric dentist. Or maybe even talk to your ex-wife. You have a child together so communication is going to be important throughout his lifetime.

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